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19-01-2018 03:14 PM
19-01-2018 03:14 PM
self harm
I feel lost. I have self harmed. I'm really worried the effect this has on my kids
does anyone understand what I'm going through?
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19-01-2018 04:04 PM
19-01-2018 04:04 PM
Re: self harm
Hi @worried1 - welcome to the forums! I can definitely tell you you're not alone on this forum being a parent while trying to also care for yourself too. It sounds like right now you might be pretty overwhelmed, and hopefully you've reached out to your doc or gotten any assistance you feel like you need right now.
There are some other threads around where discussions around coping strategies or struggling with urges can be discussed, you can use the search bar near the top of the screen to find other examples and other members who may be able to support you right now.
If you're up to it, feel free to post something to introduce yourself to the other members in this Introduce yourself here... thread, they can make you feel welcome in this online community 🙂
If you want to chat about the impact this has on your kids, feel free to express it around here. You can also reach out to the SANE Help Centre online or via phone 1800 18 7263.
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19-01-2018 05:38 PM
19-01-2018 05:38 PM
Re: self harm
As Scout said, it's hard to be a parent and care for yourself sometimes. I have three kids and life can get tricky for us sometimes. How many do you have (if you feel comfortable answering - it's ok if you don't)?
Do you have much in the way of support for you and your family?
Again, welcome and hope you find the forum helpful for you.
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19-01-2018 05:44 PM
19-01-2018 05:44 PM
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19-01-2018 05:50 PM
19-01-2018 05:50 PM
Re: self harm
Something I find hard sometimes is how tired I feel. I feel like I'm fighting myself to be ok for me and my kids often, and it gets exhausting.
How about professional supports?
By the way, if you put an @ symbol in front of someone's name, they'll be notified of your reply. It makes it a bit easier to see each other's replies.
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19-01-2018 06:24 PM
19-01-2018 06:24 PM
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19-01-2018 06:48 PM
19-01-2018 06:48 PM
Re: self harm
I've been in the space of feeling like there really isn't anything that's going to help before (often). Things start feeling pretty hopeless for me when I start feeling like that. It's hard to keep trying when it seems like there's not much point.
I've found that there's a lot that doesn't help me and it can be really hard to work through that, but sometimes I find something that does help (sometimes when I least expect it) and when that happens, it's worth me having tried.
Finding this forum was one of those things for me. I was in a very bad place when I first joined and I didn't know what to expect when I got here, but what I have found is that there are people here who get how hard it can be, and that helps me feel less alone. There are so many ideas for things to try and a huge range of experiences with different mental health issues. It made me realise that it's almost impossible to have tried every single thing out there.
I get that doesn't help with the tiredness, the disappointments, the frustration, the hopelessness of it all sometimes (not sure if you experience all of those but I do!). What helps me sometimes then is to vent about it with people who understand and to do what I can to look after myself.
Do you have any ways of looking after yourself that you find helps at all?
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19-01-2018 06:56 PM
19-01-2018 06:56 PM
Re: self harm
i am now stuck here in hiding so no one sees the damage ive done. it hurts...i am in so much pain physically now that i just cant see any happy ending
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19-01-2018 07:22 PM
19-01-2018 07:22 PM
Re: self harm
I'm about to go and say hi at a weekly forum event called Friday Feast. It can be a nice way of getting to know people. Would you like to join us?
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19-01-2018 10:31 PM