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15-01-2015 12:20 PM
15-01-2015 12:20 PM
My life is an Acronym
Hi All,
Well ... you gotta laugh really.
My life at the moment in a nutshell - acronyms rule as do jokes...
My favourite one is to do with an my relationship - Aspie male + BPD/ADHD chick + shared PTSD and manic depression = FUN FUN FUN on a daily rollercoaster.
Talk about push/pull/leave/don't leave/I hate you/I hate me/help me/hold me....
As if I don't have enough with regulating/understanding myself, I also need to understand Aspergers' and manage our relationship a lot more than neurotypical couples...
Lucky I love him .. as much as I can.... poor man.
Anyone else in similar relationships with challenging mental health combinations?
How do you cope? I have been told by a counsellor that it is not my 'job' to research/learn and help manage my partners Apsergers/PTSD/Depression ... and I get that... but life is easier if I understand where the behaviour is coming from! And reduces the impact on me and enhances our relationship .... Anyone else have similar thoughts or situation?
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15-01-2015 06:32 PM
15-01-2015 06:32 PM
Re: My life is an Acronym
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15-01-2015 07:18 PM
15-01-2015 07:18 PM
Re: My life is an Acronym
Hi @isabella
welcome to the forums
i know all about acronyms and relationships.....
my last relationship which has now broken down - long story
But i have bipolar, anxiety, depression, a undefined mood disorder, my ex, had undiagnosed ptsd, adhd, narcolepsy, cataplexy, anxiety, depression, bipolar?, personality disorder? phobias
it was such an interesting concoction, and you are right about the push/pull/leave/don't leave etc etc, I always would throw myself headlong into finding out what i could and how best to go about things for her, i tended to put myself on the backburner alot, which in turn made me miss some very big warning signs of my own issues.
what i would change if i could would be to make sure that i put myself first, looked after my health and managed my symptoms, instead of trying to mask them with everything else, by working on myself, i would have been more self aware to the fluctuations, been more on top when i was struggling, and in turn been more available to help better.....
but like everything it comes down to you and making sure you are doing the best for you first,
Learning/research is not a job, but it is nice to know what to look out for and what to be aware of.
hope this helps
thank you
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15-01-2015 08:23 PM
15-01-2015 08:23 PM
Re: My life is an Acronym
Hi Isabella
I'm Rick.
Your doc is right is not your responsibility but it can certainly be your pleasure, or your gift of love.
I don't think it hurts to understand mental illness. or spectrum related disorders. Having a handle of the psychoneurology can make the condition easier to understand and accept.
Go for it!
As I am a bachelor these days and plan to remain so I have no input to add to your enquiry, except to say Bon Chance and hang in there
Hope eendures
rick
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15-01-2015 10:29 PM
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17-01-2015 11:08 AM
17-01-2015 11:08 AM
Re: My life is an Acronym
I chose to now believe I did not destroy that r'ship .. I nearly destroyed me but WE didn't last.
I hope that perhaps you can find peace in that if you were undiagnosed, you were really powerless. Of course it would be different - you know a lot more about yourself. But what you cannot change is the person you were with ... and in my case he wasn't the best option for me. xxx
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17-01-2015 11:10 AM
17-01-2015 11:10 AM
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All for growth. Thank you for commenting and sharing.
xx
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17-01-2015 11:12 AM
17-01-2015 11:12 AM
Re: My life is an Acronym
And ... i swear if this r'ship does not work ... and it is in many ways the best I have ever had ... I will be a cat lady....
🙂