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Woke up this morning to a message saying "hope your week is going ok. sorry I'm too busy to meet with you today, next week"

I get far too many messages like this from him

I finally called him out

"Your message comes across as cold and impersonal which has a detrimental effect on my mental health. It makes me feel like an inconvenience, that I'm just a tick box on your weekly to-do list. It promotes feelings of worthlessness and unimportance. 

I understand your commitments but a feeling of compassion would be beneficial. 

Rather than assuming or hoping my week is going ok, ask me if it is. 

Sentences like you know this will be disheartening, but you need to postpone today. 

Acknowledge the impact it has on me, it'll actually make a difference rather than being thrown into the very familiar darkness of childhood beliefs."

Did I overreact? I feel like he had this coming