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  • Author : HenryX
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  • Topic : Social space
17 Jan 2022 03:53 PM
Community Guide

Hello @Former-Member 

and other members visiting the "Hangar"

 

Thank you so much for your observations, support and affirmation, @FiFi85 and that of other members, in this and various other threads.

 

From whichever perspective or direction we come, we sometimes question whether we are on the right path, or even in the right place. It has taken me nearly 12 months to progressively find my place on the forum and there are still times when I wonder .....?

 

There are members for whom I have developed a particular fondness, styles that I enjoy, interactions with others that I very much appreciate and value, in the way that their friendship is supporting and nurturing, offered to others as much as I, likewise, receive.

 

There are, on the other hand, members with whom I find I have much less, or little at all in common, discussions in which I have no interest and styles of correspondence in which I have no wish to engage. That is, indeed, the reality of life in any environment, place or community. And in those areas, I endeavour not to intrude and would like the same respect and courtesy offered to me and others, who may think and function in ways that are not necessarily the same as, but are complementary with those of each other and my own.

 

I have established four threads {I think} on the forum, of which two are currently active, being the "Hangar" and the "Food and Beverage Choices ..." threads. I have been quite firm in how I would like conversations on those threads to proceed, in order to protect the style for others who may also enjoy the threads and the style in which they are conducted. Why should we all be the same?

 

Correspondingly, while endeavouring to fulfil the role of Community Guide, to the best of my ability, I also interact with members on other threads and, while I offer what I can, I do not interfere, or intrude in the way that the members participating in those threads engage and communicate with each other, especially when the style or topics have no appeal for me.

 

I try to be careful about how I engage and correspond with other members, realising that none of our styles suits every other person.

 

Like you, @FiFi85 and others, I have been upset that a number of my posts have been removed with the recommendation that I modify them if I wish to re-post. Sometimes, not always, I have acknowledged the reason. One post, I simply modified, though the information could in no way have identified me, which was evidently the reason for its removal. But it would have detracted from the value of the post to have taken time to challenge the reason. So, I modified it and re-posted. The modification made only a small difference to the post, so everyone was close to being 'happy'.

 

I guess what I am saying is that I can choose to be here, or not to be here. However, I don't always just "roll over" so that I can stay. I can also be very protective in defence of what I might consider to be "our territory". But, I've had to learn the rules of the game in order to "keep my head above water"; to stay afloat in this pond. I am sure that the idea of "our territory" may offend some people, but there is enough space here on the forum site, and anything that may be so considered, takes nothing away from others, unless their desire for control, according to their own wishes, of all "territory", becomes all consuming.

 

If I can assist others to be able to give what is appropriate for them to give and receive as much of what they may need, as possible, I will be content.

 

With My Best Wishes

@HenryX 

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