Hi @Monarcmarc ,

Some great questions you've raised as well as some very valid points.

I wanted to share that I went through 18 months of Mentalisation based therapy for BPD. I didn't see any point in it for over a year. Only in the last few weeks/months was I able to reflect on my journey and see there was a difference.

Consider your age - this is how many years it has taken you to develop the unhelpful thinking patterns you have (in amongst the helpful thinking processes of course). It takes more than a few weeks for you to 'unlearn' the unhelpful and learn new skills. 

My suggestion is to just keep pushing through. What you go through will be invaluable to you in the future. In DBT, at least you have tangible 'skills' to learn. MBT is different - we didn't have those skills to learn. Rather, within group therapy, for 18 months, we:

1) Recalled a situation

2) Considered the emotions/feelings that came up during that time

3) Considered the emotions/feelings in the present that now come up about that particular situation

4) Consider a different perspective

Here's a better way of putting it:

None of the above processes were clear to me at that time. After 6 years or so, when I look back at this flowchart, only now I have more clarity.

@Monarcmarc , sometimes, the journey may not be clear. However, as you progress, it will become clearer. 

I'd encourage you to just keep going. In actual fact, my real recovery didn't really begin until AFTER my MBT treatment. 

I look forward to hearing from you! Feel free to visit Raising Awareness of BPD - Flipping the Script and tonight's Topic Tuesday Topic Tuesday// Borderline Personality Disorder Awareness Week 2023: Be the Difference // Tuesday 26th September 2023 5:30-7PM AEDT 

See you around.

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