Hello @Owlunar  ... makes me sad to see and hear you 'feeling blue'.  Sorry to hear of the disagreement with your daughter.  I cannot understand why she would refuse to make a phone call for you.  Having a crook spine is no excuse for refusal to make the call, nor is it an excuse for a hissy fit.

Glad that the new meds you have been put on while in hospital are having a positive effect for you.  Hopefully it lasts a long time.  I'm sorry to hear that your daughter is likely to need spinal fusion surgery.  I actually saw an orthopaedic specialist myself some 10 days ago.  He recommends I also have a discectomy and a spinal fusion.  I havent agreed yet, but will see him again in January and will give him an answer then.  I may just elect for the discectomy to elleviate the severe nerve pain, and then see what happens in subsequent years.  I could still need a fusion later.  Its all pretty daunting I have to say ... major surgery and high risk.  I hope you do not need to have it done.

You are one strong lady owl @Owlunar  ... you know yourself very well, and its so nice to see.  Still I can see that your heart is breaking over this disagreement with your daughter.  I so hope she reaches out to you very soon and puts things right. Perhaps explain also her unreasonable reaction to your simple request.

Love and hugs to you Dec.

Emelia 💕🤗