Hi eskimos,

It sounds like you have a lot going on at the moment. The treatment that works best for Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a therapy called DBT - Dialectical Behaviour Therapy. As you live in Melbourne, you should have fairly good access to services that provide this therapy. It is a very good way to build coping skills that are helpful and will also help your wife understand her disorder and the behaviours that come with it.

DBT is wonderful and well worth the effort and time, but your wife will need to be ready and dedicted as it is quite an intensive therapy.

Good luck and I hope things improve soon.

Trauma_Scars