Hi @Nells ,
It is known that hospitalisation is not ideal for pwBPD. I remember whenever I was admitted, it was just like what you said - the longer the stay, the worse the behaviour. Hospitals would be for immediate crises, perhaps in ED. But longer stays may not be wise - if anything, perhaps detrimental. The rigidity will cause her to kick the other way. Once again, it is because hospitals take all control. PwBPD already feel out of control so to have control taken away will be worse.
I'm not sure where you are located, but prevention and recovery centres PARCs are what made the most difference for me. They are voluntary residential facilities to support recovery and clients can stay for a maximum of 4 weeks. It is completely recovery-focused. And they don't take 'crap'. The moment you muck up, you get discharged. This meant I was in control. They hold mental health education support groups, meetings, outings etc. and help people with transiting back to the community whether to other support groups, work or education.
I've had numerous admissions into PARCs and that's because I ask for it so as to prevent a hospita admission.
As for doing anything about changing someone's mindset during crisis.... forget it. You may as wel talk to a wall. BPD support is about striking when the iron's cold, not hot.
Please let us know how you go.
BPDSurvivor
