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30-01-2023 01:56 PM
30-01-2023 01:56 PM
Self-neglect, same - worsening
LO lives solo, with home services (NDIS funded).
Unable to self-care personal hygiene tasks but has support by wonderful Support Workers 2 x visits per day.
Lives with continence problems. Received professional advice: basically, unable to be cured, so must be endured + aim to contain.
Already using the most absorbent products but issue is unable to independently change when soiled. Was single now double incontinence. More frequent accidents both home & out. Family unable to take LO out in community with Support Workers to accompany.
I no longer wish to visit due to home odours.
Has not sought medical treatment or if has, hasn't followed though with any tests/advice. Is resistant to suggestions to seek more help.
I can inform GP. Is there anything else I can do?
All advice welcome!
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30-01-2023 07:33 PM
30-01-2023 07:33 PM
Re: Self-neglect, same - worsening
Heya @Bea, thank you for sharing this all with us. I imagine it's distressing and painful to see this happening to a LO. How are you coping with it?
I don't know if I have any ideas on what else to do, but I thought I'd tag a few folks who might have some ideas on caring for others generally and how to encourage them to seek some extra help @Shaz51 @Determined @tired_sisyphus ❤️
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30-01-2023 07:34 PM
30-01-2023 07:34 PM
Re: Self-neglect, same - worsening
Try focusing more on the lumbar area of your back. We often don't use that area when sitting down. So it can get weak.
Also, buy a shower back scrub. It helps a lot in the shower so that you don't have to reach as far.
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30-01-2023 08:46 PM
30-01-2023 08:46 PM
Re: Self-neglect, same - worsening
Hello and hugs @Bea
I would be talking to the doctors
There is other services such as " Blue care"
" my agedcare ",
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31-01-2023 10:43 AM
31-01-2023 10:43 AM
Re: Self-neglect, same - worsening
Hi @Bea,
It sounds like a challenging situation for all involved. I think you are right in informing the GP and see if they are able to talk with LO. It's a shame that LO is resistant to medical treatment because maybe this problem could be reduced if they sought help.
It's a tough on all involved - also reminds me what a great job support workers, people that work in aged care, nurses etc do. I think they are the type of jobs not many people would be able to handle.
I wish I had some advice or wisdom but I hope you find a solution soon.
Best wishes,
FloatingFeather
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31-01-2023 05:27 PM
31-01-2023 05:27 PM
Re: Self-neglect, same - worsening
I agree that talking to the GP is helpful, if anything helps you hopefully navigate the situation better.
I don't have someone in your exact situation, although I do have older loved ones who also have certain issues, that should necessitate help, but resistant to the idea that they need it. Personally I just do what I can to validate their feelings, no blame (both on self and them).
Hoping you get something out of these forums too. Thanks for being here again.