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I'm still here @outlander
Sitting with you, but just not wanting to overwhelm you as you've a fair amount of support right now. I'm sorry that person has failed to re-connect with you. Friendships are hard work my sweet sister. Just work on you for now. In time you will make new friends who will see your true and beautiful worth. 💕💕
17 Jun 2018 11:02 PM
17 Jun 2018 11:02 PM
Hi @outlander
Here are some reference links I have found, but just a word of caution ..... this is a lot of information to try to take in at once. In the same way you have studied before, have a glance at these when you are ready, but then break it down into bite-sized pieces.
There is enough info here to keep you busy for the rest of the year ..... so maybe just take a small part of it to think about at a time, for instance, thinking about different ways to say no to people until you work out what you are comfortable with.
Another activity might be asking yoursel, “What is in this for me ?” That doesn’t mean you are being selfish, because that is not your nature ..... the questions are ...
Are you giving too much of yourself away ?
Are you people-pleasing but not pleasing yourself ?
Are you taking on too much negative energy from other people and need to close some of your own “doors and windows” and give yourself a break ?
Are you trying to fix everybody else’s problems when that is their job ?
Take it gently. Rome wasn’t built in a day, and learning to recognise and reset your boundaries takes time.
i hope this helps.
💜💐
https://psychcentral.com/lib/what-are-personal-boundaries-how-do-i-get-some/
https://psychcentral.com/lib/10-way-to-build-and-preserve-better-boundaries/
https://psychcentral.com/lib/keeping-good-boundaries-getting-your-needs-met/
17 Jun 2018 11:05 PM
17 Jun 2018 11:05 PM
Talking about relationships, I’m even hopeless being mum lately. I don’t have the energy.
I honestly would love to go somewhere and be by myself.
But, please just focus on you now.
What time do you usually try to sleep lately?
💜
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