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16 Oct 2020 10:04 PM
16 Oct 2020 10:04 PM
Im here @Former-Member .. are you okay? 💓
16 Oct 2020 10:11 PM - edited 18 Oct 2020 01:21 AM
16 Oct 2020 10:11 PM - edited 18 Oct 2020 01:21 AM
Im sorry if I havent been here for you when you need it @Former-Member .
I have commitments ... something I know you understand. Plus I havent been very talkative today. I assure you, its nothing against you ... I havent been responding to a lot of people. And if I do, its brief. Or just the support button. My apologies ... sometimes thats all I can manage.
But I am here for a while now, and can chat if youd like.
Emelia 💞
17 Oct 2020 12:39 PM - edited 17 Oct 2020 12:40 PM
17 Oct 2020 12:39 PM - edited 17 Oct 2020 12:40 PM
17 Oct 2020 04:47 PM
17 Oct 2020 04:47 PM
Hi Em
You are a strong and caring person and I know you don't see yourself in this light so many other people here have written that they do - I am not alone in my belief in you
I also know you are having a hard time - a really hard time - and you have an up-hill battling ahead and facing it pretty much alons - and that has to be hard - how will you manage all of this and deal with your sick husband as well? I don't know but I am sure you will
About your brother - if you were there for him - and from what I recollect from what you have written in your stories you were and still are - then I believe it's only fair to let him know. That's what families should be about - mine isn't - my siblings and I are estranged and that is fine with me - they cause relationships to be toxic - still I haven't picked that up from what you have written about your brother. And also - I do know how hard it is to reach out for help. I am not good about that at all - sometimes it is a good idea though - else - how could they know and then - how could you know?
I do with you the best with that
I read what you wrote about your mother having cancer and threatment and eventually dying - you couldn't be there and that has to be so hard - I really felt for you when I read that post - I couldn't be there for my mother as she aged - toxic relationship again and I don't feel guilty about it now - it was strange when she was alive and I know I would have been there for her had she wanted me - she had my sister and I knew she would be well cared for. The situation is quite different - and I think I am rattling on atm
I know your husband is psychologically and emotionally and even physically unable to be sensitive to your needs at this time - and he is bundled up in his own misery at lot of the time - you have been there for him every inch of the way. It's different again - as life is from relationship to relationship
You are a battler - I am glad you are posting your story here - it is encouraging to read what you write - you have overcome so much - and it has never been easy for you
All the best
Dec
17 Oct 2020 10:47 PM
17 Oct 2020 10:47 PM
@Emelia8 ❤️💞❣️
Wanted to stop by and say hi and let you know I am thinking of you x
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20 Oct 2020 06:57 AM
20 Oct 2020 06:57 AM
Beautiful Em,
Sending you an abundance of love. I'll be thinking of you all day, every minute holding your hand 💞💞❣️❤️💞💞
20 Oct 2020 07:04 AM - edited 20 Oct 2020 07:06 AM
20 Oct 2020 07:04 AM - edited 20 Oct 2020 07:06 AM
Thank you so much @Anastasia 💖
And thank you to everyone for all your posts (not up to tagging this morning). I havent responded as I should, but I will get back to you all as soon as I'm able, and when I know more. Perhaps this morning's apt with the surgeon will provide more answers and a plan. Hope so.
Emelia 🌷
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