Not Coping

[Blackbird11]

You are doing the right things to come to terms with the RO decision @Birdofparadise8. No matter what, the decision is not changing, you can only live with it and eventually you will have to let it go,  and focus on how you will live your life moving forward. It is sad that it's happened and it's so good to hear you are looking after yourself. 

I do have online training this evening. 

[Birdofparadise8]

It's only what my psych said. I was just sharing that. 

[tyme]

@Birdofparadise8 @ArraDreaming @creative_writer 

We can see that things are getting a little tense. 

It may be good that you have a break from this space. 

We may also lock this space for some time if it's needed.

If you have any concerns, please reach out to us at team@saneforums.org

[Snowie]

@Birdofparadise8 

At the end of the day all we and your psych can do is give you our opinions. No you don't have to accept what has happened with RO. You don't have to be happy about the decision that was made without your input at all. And you certainly don't have to agree with anyone's suggestions. That is your choice entirely. But at the end of the day unfortunately the decision is taken out of your hands.  Whether you choose to accept it or not, it is not going to change the outcome. It is your choice on how you are going to get through these 8 weeks.

I can't speak for others on here, but I will say that people are coming from a place of warmth and compassion. They are giving you their opinion in the hope that it will help you. This shows that they care. And people continuously coming back and responding shows how much they care for you and your mental health.

I hope you take this post with how it was intended. From a place of care.

[Birdofparadise8]

Yeah I know @Blackbird11 

It's just hard. 

Is it 5-7? 

What are you doing until then? 

[ArraDreaming]

Yep @tyme I’m tapping out from this conversation, it’s best I think.

[Birdofparadise8]

Oh yeah, I know it's out of my hands. It's happened, and I can't do anything. I totally get that. 

@Snowie 

Thanks 

[Former-Member]

Hey there @Birdofparadise8 🙂🌺

that’s an interesting question… I hope you don’t mind - I find it very interesting when health workers/medics ask these kinds of moral (for want of a better description) questions; it makes me think of philosophical conundrums like the Trolley Problem discussed by Philippa Foot in 1967, where the moral dilemma is designed to get people thinking about the choices we face and the reasons behind what we might choose (or might not get to choose, depending on the perspective or position within the situation) .. I have included a reference here: trolley dilemma  in case it’s of interest 🙂🌺

Otherwise, I hope you have a nice afternoon 💜🙂🌺

And, I just want to gently say, this is not to minimise what you’ve experienced - I want to acknowledge that ❤️‍🩹🫂

[Blackbird11]

Yes it is 5 -7, I'm just making dinner @Birdofparadise8 

[Birdofparadise8]

Hi @Former-Member 

Sorry, I'm a bit confused with what you have said.