I think I am negatively different

[Wonder_Boy]

Nothing is really working out for me. I put in so much effort even more than many others, and still get the worst results, worse than so many. Feeling much more like people avoid me. I am alone, and can not seem to catch a break. Newly relocated to a new country and it's feeling like the worst ever mistake of my life. I am feeling like a burden to so many people, not necessarily because I ask them for material things, but maybe because I need some guidance and it seems my questions are becoming too much and burdensome, and it's already getting to me. I don't want to ask too many questions from people anymore and look like an idiot. I am afraid of too many failures, I cannot see myself trying so hard again just to fail. Every ounce of hope in me is slightly drying off, more like living like a useless person.

The last job I got two months back, I got sent away just after 2 days, and the excuse they gave was that I am not fast enough to catch up with their processes (just after 2 days); don't know if there are underlying reasons. I think I am a problem to everyone that is why I am facing people avoid or reject me.

[tyme]

Hey @Wonder_Boy ,

Thanks for posting. I hear your concerns and how you think you are negatively different. I'm wondering if that is worth reframing to say that that people have not yet seen your super powers?

We are all different in some way or another. There is no NORMAL. 

As a child, I hated being different or odd, but now I've learnt to embrace it because I've found my place in society. Do you think it's about finding your tribe? This may take time.

Yet life is about finding your place. Discover who you are and what gives you the satisfaction.

You are not alone. 

We are here to support you.

[Wonder_Boy]

How many things do I have to lose, or how many more rejections do I have to face while waiting to find my place. How do I know I am not wasting my time waiting for what will never be? I just feel most people dislike me, except for those who still have anything to gain from me, otherwise I feel as useless as the "P" is Psychology.

[tyme]

Hey @Wonder_Boy ,

I hear your hesitations. You have raised some very important points there.

Yet, from my experience, I've learnt to see that what I lose in one aspect, I'll gain in another so I'll NEVER be in deficit.

Practice re-framing the narrative. Look at what you gain from the experience. Look at your gains through the loss. 

I lost over a decade to severely acute mental health, yet in the process, I have gained much more than if I never had mental health to contend with. For starters, I'd never be on a platform like this.

Not need to rush and answer. Have a think about it.

Feel free to tag me into your responses by typing "@" in front of my name e.g. @tyme 

[Blackbird11]

Thanks for reaching out @Wonder_Boy sounds tough for you at the moment. You matter and we're here for you.

 

[Resonar]

@Wonder_Boy 

I just want to thank you for having written this.

I feel like it echoes some of my experiences, and I feel better understood, and less alone for having read it.

I hope, for you, that some of what is shared here can provide the solace you have given me today.

Your perseverance is definitely something to value about yourself.

[tyme]

Hey @Resonar and @Wonder_Boy  - please know that when you find your tribe, people will appreciate you for who you are. Experiences shape and change us, yet your innermost values keep each one going.

Hang on there. You are not alone.