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Re: Dissociative Identity Disorder Carers?

Re: Dissociative Identity Disorder Carers?

Exhausted today after a busy day (yay), late night (mostly my own fault) and a teary wake up (not yay).


The teary wake up was following a conversation with Younger Daughter last night about school. We knew she was struggling badly with her schoolwork. She had a subject selection meet up with a teacher yesterday, who recommended that she take the TAFE style stream rather than doing VCE.


It's so hard feeling like a choice is being shut down on her because of all the stress she's under. We know she's intelligent enough- we actually got an IQ test for her because she was stuggling, and she should be well and truly capable of doing her schoolwork, but... Smiley Sad The whole family gets dragged along with all the pain and irrationality and grief, and no matter how much we want to, we can't do anything to change that.


Teary never leaves me in a good state. My head feels all cotton-wool-full for the rest of the day. So I've taken things a bit easier today. Getting essentials only done, and getting out in the garden; plus Younger had a day off school today, so we went out for icecream together. And after a day of mulling, I'm thinking the TAFE stream might not be a bad thing. If that's the way things go, I'm going to be very insistent that elective subjects and work placements really need to be with the aim of her getting some self care, and not just centred around building "employability". Seriously, what good is she going to be to herself or anyone else if she's emotionally burned out before she's even out of school?


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Same happened with our youngest @Smc ..... couldn’t fight wildfire on all fronts at the time and she was suffering with psychosomatic illness as a result .....  and my mr. was in a more volatile state at the time ...... then suggesting that she quit school cos not everyone is cut out to be academic ..... 😳🙄😡 ..... she is highly intelligent and academic, was just completely overwhelmed by circumstances.  It sucked at the time, but she only needed to get through school, and is in TAFE-through-uni art studies with me now.   It’s nurturing and healing her self-esteem.

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Yep... I really hope though that it might turn into a "consider the lillies" moment of being what she needs. At least we do honestly know that she is smart enough, and can reassure her of that.


My own schooling was somewhat messed around by family issues plus school bullying. I repeated a year level that I should have passed with good marks due to stress/anxiety. I did get into uni, didn't complete the degree because it took me a year or so to realise that, as much as I was enjoying the studies, I didn't want the desk job they'd lead in to. The TAFE ceramics degree I ended up in years later was much more suited to me.


In the end, "highest educational attainment" is pretty dodgy as a measure of someone's actual level of ability. It's a pity it's so often used as a reference point. Hoping that Younger will grow up with the self confidence to know her own worth, regardless of how others measure her.


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@Smc  Thinking of you and family. 

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Ta @Determined.

A probably-productive phonecall with one of Younger's Vice Principles yesterday. She's happy to quietly reccommend to her subject choice advisors that she be allowed to choose subjects that "keep her engaged", which is close enough in edu-jargon to choosing self care subjects.

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That is good news @Smc 

Always good when school can be understanding of the bigger picture and supportive of processes like that.  Trust it works out in Daughters favour. 

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