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07-12-2017 04:27 PM
07-12-2017 04:27 PM
Re: Falling apart
I hope you can get there too @Faith-and-Hope,
My mr being an introvert too @dands26
and I find even just sitting next to him holding each other`s hand while watching tv is good for him
what Gary Chapman believes is very interesting @dands26 and also remember to include self care for you too
I am still learning to get the right balance now and then
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07-12-2017 11:25 PM
07-12-2017 11:25 PM
Re: Falling apart
We seem to be having a good day or 2 and then it goes bad at the moment.
He is now unsure of his decision and contemplating changing it. He really cant see its whats best for him right now.
His birthday is coming up and hes told me tonight that he doesnt want me to do anything for him for his birthday because it would be wasted to organise or do something for him.
He cried lots, but doesnt know why he was crying.
He would occasionally ask a question like what makes me happy.
Otherwise the whole night was spent in silence.
I feel like breaking.
I am so mentally exhausted.
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07-12-2017 11:32 PM
07-12-2017 11:32 PM
Re: Falling apart
I suggest you take time out to look after you and recharge your own batteries @dands26. You need to protect yourself from carers burnout, or there will be two of you requiring support instead of one ..... and you will lose your ability to stand by him and help him.
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08-12-2017 08:28 AM
08-12-2017 08:28 AM
Re: Falling apart
Carers Hints and tips to Success
Topic Tuesday // Burnout // 24 Jan. 7pm AEDT
Hello @dands26, I have included these 2 threads to have a look at and read , I tried to highlight them so you can click on them but it is not eorking this morning
Sending you hugs , a very long week for us here
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08-12-2017 09:55 PM
08-12-2017 09:55 PM
Re: Falling apart
Also thanks @Faith-and-Hope for the suggestion.
Mr. Had a much better day today.
I feel much more relaxed this evening.
Im enjoying a nice cup of tea while getting a shoulder rub from my 15yo step sister.
Definitely much more relaxed today.
I think hearing him in a better place today helps.
His bad days take such a huge toll on me.
I worry about him so much & the unknowing of the right thing to do sometimes.
I love this forum i feel absolutely supported
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09-12-2017 03:29 PM
09-12-2017 03:29 PM
Re: Falling apart
good afternoon @dands26
how are you today xx
everything has settled down again at the moment , went food shopping this moning for us and my mum which my husband hates shopping
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09-12-2017 11:27 PM
09-12-2017 11:27 PM
Re: Falling apart
Things have settled down here also.
Some clarification at work has really helped calm him
Im glad mr shaz has calmed also.
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10-12-2017 11:58 AM
10-12-2017 11:58 AM
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That`s good @dands26
How is your weekend going
My mum is 86 and wants to go to Bingo , so i am going with her , Ha ha she has always hated and never went to bingo
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10-12-2017 02:06 PM
10-12-2017 02:06 PM
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Bingo is always great fun though.
Be good too just relax for a couple of hours.
How is mr shaz doing?
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12-12-2017 12:14 AM - edited 12-12-2017 12:18 AM
12-12-2017 12:14 AM - edited 12-12-2017 12:18 AM
Re: Falling apart
This is so interesting @dands26
Thank you for sharing.......
Ill get back to you about what my love language is when Ive thought about it in about 5 minutes....
Words of afformation.
Acts of service.
Giving gifts.........
how are you ? I'll read up to date and see what you have been writing......