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01 May 2017 11:27 PM
01 May 2017 11:27 PM
Thank you for noticing @Former-Member We have been expecting it, so he has relief from pain, but it is still a fraught time. I am keeping very calm and doing self care and my son is being kind and considerate. I am not very emotional about this death, but am tearing up a little at the level of support I have felt here at the forum and in passing irl.
It feels appropriate, other people's responses, for the first time. My father and other siblings' deaths were in a vacuum. No timely support , phone calls or visits or conversations. Only one card for my brother, none for the other deaths. Now I can see that is really pathetic on the part of my family. Its history now and I am lucky I have survived.
We used pieces of coral as a kind of BBQ and slow cooker .. buried it in sand ... the sand would have put out the fire but we stoked it til it was coals, inside the coral. Make sense??
We were living in a beach hut. There was a coral reef out the front ... Locals selling fish on the beach ...
Hello @JoJo99
02 May 2017 05:35 AM
02 May 2017 05:35 AM
Sounds like a beautiful memory @Appleblossom ....
I wanted to send you this .... I have made it small because it is a strong image ...
02 May 2017 07:37 AM
02 May 2017 07:37 AM
02 May 2017 08:04 AM
02 May 2017 08:04 AM
Sending love @Appleblossom. Some of us lucked out in the family stakes. That coral cooker sounds epic. You must show us how to make one so we can enjoy our fish meals on that beautiful beach.
02 May 2017 08:11 AM
02 May 2017 08:11 AM
02 May 2017 09:42 AM - edited 02 May 2017 09:45 AM
02 May 2017 09:42 AM - edited 02 May 2017 09:45 AM
@Appleblossom, lots of love. I took "last words" as meaning a regular but emotional goodbye, not a "final goodbye".
Yes, beautiful beach memory. It sounds like a coastal variation on a hangi- where you'd build a hot fire in a pit to heat up stones, then bury the food in there until it was cooked through. Have known the theory for years and never gotten to applying it.
02 May 2017 09:46 AM
02 May 2017 09:46 AM
02 May 2017 09:58 AM
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02 May 2017 11:32 AM
02 May 2017 11:32 AM
02 May 2017 01:34 PM
02 May 2017 01:34 PM
Hi @soul @outlander @Faith-and-Hope @Appleblossom @Smc @Determined and everyone else that I have missed. Barely slept last night. My partner came over early this morning and we slept for a bit, cuddled. He was really sweet. He said we will talk on way to work as he drove me in which we did. He explained about how people just texting and calling him triggers his anxiety and depression etc. He explained what he really needed and as expected can't really give me what I need as a gf. You could see that it was tough on him to make the choice to call things off and just be friends so I had to make it. It is hitting me alot harder than I expected and I am trying to keep it together. Think it has hit him as well. Seeing me so hurt made him anxious and down cause he knows he caused it. Seeing him in that state made me more sad. I reassured him that it is partially on me as I made the choice to stick with him knowing all this but let's call it bad timing that we got involved when he had his mental wellbeing to deal with and it probably be best to be friends cause i do care and love him. He msged me to apologise for everything and he said i have been so caring and lovely to him and it just hard to see how much he has hurt me.
Have only told couple friends about this and will leave as that for now. Not ready tell the world.
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